A recent study done in the United States of America by sociologists from the University of Arizona and Duke University shows that Americans have fewer close friends (than they had a decade ago) these days owing to a hectic lifestyle and stressing, back breaking office schedules. The study indicates that they are moving towards an increasingly isolated societal existence.
The newest strategy several companies are following to boost sales is pretty innovative. They are offering free vacation packages, which coax consumers to give up what could possibly be their most elusive commodity, their official ‘Work’ time, and take a break.
And this is no small task with today’s fast paced lifestyle where everyone seems to be caught up in that all important race to the finish line, leaving them with no personal life. Though the world may have become a smaller place with the advancements in technology, ironically, human contact been people seems to have dwindled.
So while we chat with our associates across the globe, we might not even know our neighbours. On an average most of us spend 30 per cent of our day travelling to and from work.
This is a choice that each one of us makes in terms of priorities. Earlier, we were satisfied with earning a certain amount of money. Today, we want more of everything – more money, a bigger house, a better job and so on. The job market too has become extremely competitive. People are paid fantastic salaries and employers expect them to earn it.
The consequences are enormous, and quite disastrous. Not taking time out from work to unwind affects work in the long run, leads to unfinished deadlines. Sometimes, one even loses the motivation to work at all. It also affects one’s relationship with closed ones. It also leads to distress which can then lead to either sadness or aggression, or even depression. It could lead to violence too.
So what is the solution if any? I believe that organising time is extremely crucial: “You might later realise that you have wasted the best years of your life running from home to office and vice versa. I suggest prioritisation and goal setting – long as well as short term, both at home and at the work place. See what you need to do everyday and evaluate what you did at the end of the day, week and month. Leave some space for unexpected commitments which might crop up.
And it helps if you have an assertive personality. Learn when to say no. If you say yes to everyone from your boss to your friends, to working overtime and catching the latest movie at the same breath, you will end up being overburdened and resentful. One should start focusing on the present and letting go of past grudges or future worries. Expressing your feelings is also important. Be spontaneous. Whenever you get a bit of time, utilise it positively. Either meet up with friends or do something you enjoy doing alone. Lastly, take care of your mental and physical health, which will enable you to make optimum use of your time.
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