Archive for March, 2009

Getting Promoted Managing Co-Workers Who Are Your Friends

Friday, March 27th, 2009

Getting a promotion is obviously a step forward in your career but what happens when you get promoted over some of your co-workers who you now have to manage?

In addition to being promoted over other people who may have wanted the same job, you now face the task of managing people who view you as a peer and possibly as a friend.

There can be a difference between being a peer and being a manager so it’s best to recognize the changes that occur once you get promoted.

You obviously have a job to do but you will also want to remain friendly and cordial with your co-workers while ensuring that things get done properly.

The reality is that you will be managing people who previously were at the same level as you were so it is likely that your relationship with them will change in your new role. You’ll need to learn how to be firm without being bossy and you’ll need to recognize how to give (and accept) constructive feedback when required.

When moving up the corporate ladder, you might find times such as these when the relationship you have with others in the company changes and you have to adjust how you deal with these people.

The first thing you might do once you begin your new job is to sit down with each of your staff members individually and simply set the expectations in a pleasant manner. Let them know what they can expect from you now that you are their manager and what you expect from them.

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Manage Your Energy, Mine Your Potential

Thursday, March 26th, 2009

People are attracted to energy like moths to a flame, and when the flame gets turned up too high – or low – they may become repelled.

I had a friend who possessed so much energy she reminded me of a Superball

Management, Balance & Time – 10 Tips for Managing Overwhelm in your Business

Saturday, March 14th, 2009

How many of us have been in a position where we have more to do than can realistically fit into one day, or week. So we spend all of our time feeling rushed, being rushed, and wondering how on earth we are going to manage. If you are having that feeling of overwhelm in your business, it’s time to take stock of what’s going on.

How well you manage yourself and the time you have, is crucial to your success. Wasted time equals lost opportunities. Lost opportunities equal lost business and profits.

Time can’t be “saved” – it’s an impossibility. You can’t find more of it – it’s a fixed commodity. You can only manage your activities as time passes. So how are you spending the 60 seconds in each minute – the 60 minutes in each hour – the 1,440 minutes in each day?

What you need is to achieve is working on your top priorities in the most effective way. Here are 10 great strategies for doing just that.

Lesson 1: Prioritize

Aside from just listing what needs to be done, rank them from most important to least important. And then complete them in that order. Too often we start with the easy stuff or the quick stuff, regardless of how important it is. Look at the list of things that need to be done. Hi-light the activities that you could put on hold if you had to. How much time could you free up if you put some of those activities on hold?

Be realistic about the number of priorities you have. Most of the activities we are involved in are things we want to do. The problem with overwhelm is that there are many more things we want to do, than we physically have time for. So create some space by telling yourself that you are just putting some activities on hold for now. You are not giving them up forever, but you are giving yourself permission to put some activities on hold – so you can focus on the most important priorities. This may force you to make some tough choices – but it’s a pretty empowering thing to do.|

Lesson 2: Be ruthless with e-mail

What a productivity killer email can be if misused. Use a private email address for clients and customers. Get everything else sent to a generic or alternate email address. That way you can deal with your client issues first, and the rest when you have time.

Only respond to your emails at set times during the day. I personally do emails first thing in the morning, and between 2 and 3pm each day. There’s no need to respond the instant that you receive an email. This approach simply means you get interrupted all the time, and your productivity remains low.

Lesson 3: Restrict your use of the telephone

Try to devote a certain time of the day to both return and originate phone calls. Carrying a mobile telephone makes us feel as though we’ve got to be “connected” at all times – but this is just plain crazy. And just because someone calls us doesn’t mean we have to answer immediately. Some people I now work extremely effectively by restricting calls to two periods during the day – one period in the morning to make all their calls, and another in the afternoon to return calls and to followup. At all other times, voicemail takes any messages. This may not work for your business, but the idea of not answering the telephone unless it is at a good time for you can really help you with the continuity of your work

Lesson 4: If you don’t have time for something, just say so

There is no need to listen politely if you’ve already decided the conversation is not of interest. Simply say – “I am sorry to interrupt you, but I don’t have time for this right now.” Yes it’s direct, but then you are not sitting there feeling frustrated about the time you are wasting.

Lesson 5: Limit your availability

This is one of the keys to beating overwork. Unexpected and unplanned interruptions and distractions can “steal” your day. An “open door” policy is fine, but not if it has a negative impact on productivity and profitability. Actually schedule time when you can’t be interrupted, and let everyone know about it. During that time you don’t answer emails, you don’t answer the phone and you don’t talk to others – you just do whatever it is you’ve got to do – no interruptions.

Lesson 6: Protect your productive time

Each of us knows if we are a morning person or a night owl. We know if our peak productivity times are at 7 am or at 11pm. So make sure you are free and uninterrupted at those times. Try and make this time just for you and devote the activities that need your brain the most at the times you are most productive.

Lesson 7: Plan your day the night before

I know – you’ve heard it before. But spending 5 minutes at the end of the day preparing for the next day helps to orient you in advance and mentally sets you up. So when you get up in the morning, you’re ready to go!

Do whatever works for you – make lists of activities, check your calendar, enter tasks into your electronic task list, schedule a couple of uninterrupted hours in your diary, tidy away your papers and get tomorrow’s ones ready to go. Do whatever you need to to feel comfortable about the next day’s work.

Lesson 8: Don’t get buried by paper

When possible, try to “touch” each piece of paper only once. File it, act on it or toss it! (Periodically, every quarter, purge your files. If you haven’t touched it in 3 months, you probably never will…so toss it!). As the saying goes: “Do it, ditch it, or delegate it!”

Lesson 9: Group your appointments

If you have several appointments or errands, try to group them all in the same day so that all of your external travel and time is scheduled for one or two days in the week. That leaves you 3 full days in the office without the need to go out for meetings.

Lesson 10: Confirm appointments

Never assume that your 1 o’clock is on! The realization that you’ve been “stood up” is both frustrating and irritating. A simple phone call or e-mail message, saves time, energy and anxiety.

Management expert Peter Drucker, once declared, “Time is the scarcest resource.” Time really isn’t scarce, it’s uniform and constant. However, your ability to manage it is crucial to your success. If you can’t get this part right, you may not need to not worry about cash management!

Megan Tough – published writer, coach, facilitator and speaker – works with people to create outstandingly satisfying and truly successful professional lives. Make more money – have more fun! To learn more and to sign up for more FREE tips and articles like these, visit http://www.megantough.com

Unmanaged Stress Kills and Ruins Lives! Sit a Bit

Monday, March 9th, 2009

When I pay attention, I clearly see the arresting ways God works in my life. Often people I meet in my programs (or elsewhere) give me such profound, relevant messages I know the hand of God is at work and it is to my peril to ignore such directives. Two such recent encounters helped release me from the bondage of undue stress.

In a recent workshop I facilitated I spoke with one woman at the day’s end who looked sorely overwhelmed. As we spoke she began listing all she had to do today; all she had accomplished yesterday; and the endless list still needing to be done.

As I gently queried this bright, enthused woman she began to see she was doing too much. What really had to be done today? After a very full, all-day workshop could she just go home and give herself some down time and trust she’d accomplish what really needed to be done in good time? My parting words to her that night were “Easy does it.”

As she left, I saw the gift she had given me. Hadn’t I just been feeling overwhelmed with new work I had taken on, plus a host of other life decisions all seeming to demand my attention NOW?

What Really Needs to be Done Today?

Like this woman, I too was doing more in one day than necessary plus, worrying about all the future tasks to be done. As Jesus admonished us in the Beatitudes “Do not borrow trouble from tomorrow…”

If you are feeling pressured, overwhelmed and stressed – it is time to stop and ask, “What really needs to be done today?” Also, “How much energy am I wasting worrying about the future?” We need to allow what we have done to be enough and to trust we have the time we need.

Unmanaged Stress Kills

Another client not long ago drove home the importance of managing stress in our lives. I approached this person one day after the program as he seemed withdrawn and resistant.

Sadly, this remarkably gifted man had lost all confidence in his talents to pursue a possible dream in design (although others remarked on the genius he’d applied to his own home). Near tears, he also revealed how he had nearly died from a chronic debilitating disease caused by extreme stress.

With chilling clarity, this man’s demise and hopelessness showed me the dangers of eroding oneself with excessive worry, stress and self-doubt (which as humans we all slip into from time to time.) Loudly, this message spoke to me of the importance of managing stress, giving ourselves much needed breaks, trusting in the timing of things, and being on our own side.

Pressuring ourselves to do more or worrying about what must be done does not alleviate the underlying feelings of inadequacy and fear. Rather than pushing ourselves to do more or allowing negative self-talk to erode us can we instead sit a bit with ourselves?

Sit a Bit

This can be a challenge because often it is exactly these scary feelings and thoughts we are trying to escape! Try sitting and breathing and accepting this wholly human condition. Let us give our precious selves some kindness and compassion when these driven, crazy-making moments arise.

Breathing Letting go Trusting in a perfect timing

As we sit with ourselves we need to do so without expectations. We don’t have to get it right or achieve some special state. We simply practice kindness toward ourselves and acknowledge our uncomfortable or painful feelings.

Herein, old habits begin to dissolve of their own accord. Also, from this place we can more clearly make decision about what our true priorities are and put first things first.

In an interview with Mahatma Ghandi; Ghandi said he meditated two hours each day. The interviewer asked, “What do you do when you are too busy to meditate?” Gandhi replied, “Mediate four hours a day.” Clearly, taking the time to sit with ourselves is a priority especially when we are far too busy or stressed to do so!

Teresa Proudlove has been inspiring, supporting, and guiding over 3000 people upon their career and life work path for over fourteen years – with compassion and heart. Teresa’s workshops and writing, offer a deeper understanding and respect for ourselves, for others, and for our lifework path. This entrepreneurial woman also owned and successfully operated two women’s retail boutiques for ten years. For over twelve years, Teresa was a well-read newspaper columnist. Visit Teresa at http://www.yourlifework.com; listen to your inner guidance and navigate through life and work with more meaning, acceptance and peace.

8 Ways to Improve Your Long Distance Relationship

Sunday, March 1st, 2009

Couples in love may often find themselves having to live apart for a period of time throughout their relationship due to job commitment, studies, military obligation and etc. This has made us wonder whether a relationship can survive the physical distance. Different people may have different view towards the subject and if you ask me. I will give you this answer “YOU are the one who is going to determine whether it will work or not” “There are nobody in this world who can tell you whether you can survive or not except yourself”. Surviving a long distance relationship is not about promises or luck but it is very much dependent on how you think, act, manage and most importantly, how you want the outcome to be. Therefore it is very important to make up your mind whether you want the relationship to work or not. It will be easier once you have done that as there are tons of thing you can do to improve your distance relationship. Below are the ways you can use to survive and improve your distance relationship in summary.

1) Do not believe all the myths that you have heard about Long Distance Relationship before checking it out yourself. Get support from someone who really can understand you and your distance relationship.

2) Be prepared to manage your own emotion throughout the durations of your distance relationship with your partner. List out the potential emotional stress that you will be facing and discuss it with your partner. Find books or resources that can help you to manage your emotions in relation to Long Distance Relationship.

3) Cultivate the 7 most essential elements that are required to make your distance relationship work,

i) Plan and set reasonable objectives

ii) Learn to trust your partner unconditionally

iii) Prepare a statement of commitment

iv) Learn to respect your distance partner

v) Dedicate sometime to understand your partner despite the distance

vi) Be patience to unforeseen circumstances in your distance relationship

vii) Learn to give undivided attention to your distance partner.

4) Cut down your telecommunication fees or cost by sourcing for cheap alternative to telephone calls. Emails, messaging service or Internet (and much more) can be the good alternatives to expensive long distance calls if you know how to use them effectively.

5) Learn to communicate effectively over the media as mentioned above. The skill is necessary as you will be communicating with your distance partner without any clue from his or her body language.

6) In long distance relationship, it is possible to grow together while living apart. This can be done by following the some simple rules below:

i) Never let the distance be a physical barrier to do what a normal couple will do in a relationship.

ii) Feel free to convey your thought over to your distance partner as if he or she is sitting next to you. Distance should not hinder a distance couples from growing together in emotion.

iii) Be proud of your relationship and most of all

iv) Accept the fact the distance is temporary and view it from the positive mindset.

v) Be open to new suggestions and most importantly be creative in your effort to bring fun to the relationship.

7) As a human, we are not perfect in everything, therefore, you must learn from your own mistake throughout the course of your long distance relationship. You can also find resources or helps from people who has experience the relationship and learn from them.

8) Make preparation for the homecoming of your distance lover and look forward to bring your relationship to a higher level. The anticipation will definitely help both the distance partner to pull through.

About the Author
Alex Chew is an avid believer of Long Distance Relationship. He has been actively helping lots of distance couples in their journey through his research work and book. He is also the webmaster of http://www.perfect-relationship.com and the author of Manage Your Way to A Perfect Distance Relationship ebook.

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