Oak Forest Managing Tip

By the very nature of shyness, you are likely to meet fewer shy people than those who are not shy. Although they are within your circle of life, they may hide in the shadows, withdrawing from reach at times you may be getting close to them. Because they are shy, they do not approach you; and you do not approach them simply because you do not know they exist, because you think they want to be left alone, or because you feel uncomfortable, not understanding shyness and not knowing how to deal with people who are shy.

It is inevitable, though, that there will be occasions when you need to communicate with shy people, and there will be shy people who you will benefit from your communicating with. It can therefore be useful to have an ability to communicate effectively with people who, by your standards at least, are shy.

Managers have a responsibility to deal with all types of characters, so it is particularly important that a manager can communicate effectively with shy people. Every person is different, and reasons for being shy can vary from person to person. However, the following tips for dealing with shy people may help you in your management role:

1. Be sure you are not confusing quietness with shyness. Most shy people are quiet, but not all quiet people are shy.

2. Try to understand the reasons for their being shy. You can only do that by communicating with them, and that is best achieved in a quiet way, encouraging them to feel at ease with you as you converse.

3. With all of your staff, you need to be a good listener to be a good manager. By being able to sit and listen to a shy member of staff, and respect what he or she is saying, you will not only learn about them, their ideas, and what their motivation is, but may also help them in overcoming shyness.

4. Shy and quiet people are not necessarily bad workers; in fact, the opposite is often true. If you can communicate with them, that alone will motivate them further. It will also give you the opportunity to draw out from them what they are especially good at, interested in, and capable of.

5. Once you have established a good line of communication with a shy member of staff, try to discuss their shyness, in a quiet and non critical way. If it affects their work adversely in any way, discuss what they may be able to do about improving things. Jointly setting personal objectives for them may help them to overcome the problem, at least partially, and enough to help them progress in their work.

6. Treating every member of staff as an individual is a key part of good management technique, regardless of their type of character and personality. With shy people, you may find it even more important. It is something they will appreciate perhaps more than an extrovert, who may not even be aware of your effort.

With understanding and consideration, shy members of staff can be nurtured into being a valuable contributor to your team. While they may never be an outgoing sales representative, there are many roles a shy person may successfully fill, and with your help, they can have as much potential as anyone else.

This dealing with shyness article was written by Roy Thomsitt, owner and part author of the Routes To Self Improvement website.

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Looking for all of the answers in how to manage your persistent anxieties and stresses? As an author of a managing fear book, I found it difficult to find all of the answers in managing my anxieties. Although I am a layman and not a professional, I have interviewed many psychologists and clergyman and I have over fifteen years of experience in dealing with fear.

As a result, here is a brief list of techniques that a person can use to help manage their every day stresses and anxieties.

Sometimes, we get stressed when everything happens all at once. When this happens, a person should take a deep breathe and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things.

Another technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that make us feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel anxious, open up your small notebook and read those statements.

When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first thing you can do is to break the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

In dealing with your anxieties, a person should learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of focusing on exaggerated assumptions that may or may not happen, focus on the present and rely on the facts of the present situation.

Our anxieties and stresses can sometimes get the best of us, however there are many helpful resources available to us. It might take some hard work and persistence, but it is possible to find those answers in managing your anxieties.

Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing
Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” –
an easy to read book that presents a general overview of
techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and
anxieties. For additional information go to:
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